One of the most gratifying things about learning about your motivations is that when you do, and you actively seek to get your motivational needs met, it opens you up to experiencing the world in new and dramatically different ways.
Emotions never have been my strength, to say the least. Yet, as I have learned to take care of myself, I have found myself becoming more empathetic and aware of my authentic feelings. Last Friday, I experienced that in a way I never had before.
My older daughter is graduating from college in June and she goes to school just a few miles away. She asked if I would take her and a few of her friends out to dinner, along with her sister. Her friends have become like daughters to me and I happily agreed.
About an hour into the dinner, I sat back and scanned the table. I saw my daughters and these other accomplished, vital and wonderful women, smiling and talking to one another. I felt their energy and their connection, and I suddenly was overwhelmed by gratitude that they were in each other’s lives. Tears began rolling down my face. My daughter’s roommate noticed and asked what was wrong. Nothing, I said, and told her what was going on inside me.
While certainly I’ve been overcome with emotion at times, at my wedding, the birth of my children, the death of a loved one, there always has been a significant part of it that was about me. This was all about them. I hope it happens a lot more often.
Have you ever accessed a positive part of yourself that usually lies deep beneath the surface? What invited it?